Something happened today at school that made me decide to make some big changes. I don't think they should wait till December 31st rolls around again.
This morning I was stopped by one of the Trendy Moms, (in the UK she'd definitely be a Yummy Mummy, complete with a really cool job) and while we were talking, another TM comes along, stands right in front of me and begins a brand new conversation, which didn't seem to include me. Most of the time mid-west Americans talk so fast that I never quite know whether I'm included or not because I miss the first half of the sentence, but the body language today suggested not. No "Excuse me", or "Can I just butt in" - nothing. Now, I'm 5'7" and of medium build so I'm nowhere near invisible and not that easy to talk over. TM #1 didn't even try to let Interruptor know that in fact, she might at least wait till I had finished my sentence. (Incidentally, what kind of lesson are they teaching their kids?)
Normally, I wait around with an embarrassed second-class citizen sort of smile on my face, patiently listening for a cue that their trendy talk is over. When it becomes clear that they aren't going to curtail their important conversation on my account, I usually start backing off and then pretend that I've seen someone else I need to speak to, or just get out my phone, (when I've remembered to bring it along). This morning however, I just walked off. I wasn't in a huff (actually I was rather seething inside but didn't want to appear petty), yet something came over me and I thought "No, not this time Missy!" I don't think they even noticed my departure though.
So this school year kicks off a new attitude by moi! No more pandering to the ridiculous social needs and insecurities of others. If you don't speak to me on a regular basis, don't come making nice on the odd occasion I've been on TV or radio, or you've read something I've written. I'm still the same fairly boring, somewhat strange English lady who rarely gets manicures, doesn't go to the trendy gym and can't really advance your social standing in this city. And if I have a party, I'm only inviting the people I like; not the people that I "should" invite or who might find out about it and be offended, many of whom never seem to have parties and certainly don't invite me. (I do realize that I'm at least half to blame for that situation.) If it's not a reciprocal relationship it's not a relationship!
What else? Oh yes, if your kids interrupt me when I'm talking to you, and you don't try to make them wait or say "Excuse me", I will simply stop the conversation and walk off as above. It's rude, it's teaching my kids appalling manners and if I condone it, I can't expect them to behave any differently. And besides, it really, really gets on my nerves!
Gosh, I feel so much better! I think I'm going to enjoy this school year!