tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post1616261606152619245..comments2024-01-05T06:16:49.932+00:00Comments on Expat Mum: Helicopter Parent? That would be me.Expat mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-69983822957717732592012-05-03T14:53:53.133+01:002012-05-03T14:53:53.133+01:00I remember my mum and dad taking me up and down to...I remember my mum and dad taking me up and down to University at the beginning and end of each year. Can't remember if they did it for each term. Surely not? I think we had storage facilities in college so most of my stuff would go in a trunk each year. But apart from that, they had no involvement in what I was doing there, and quite right too.Trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00119443727504215312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-31811124643748586702012-04-30T22:56:18.468+01:002012-04-30T22:56:18.468+01:00Maggie - I remember when I was at uni, it was only...Maggie - I remember when I was at uni, it was only "the top 2%" who went. My husband always thinks it's funny that I know friends of friends through the university system, but we weren't really talking about a lot of people at that time.<br />In the US, kids go to college and university for things that in the UK, at least in the past, you wouldn't be able to study at a uni.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-17526095225839122282012-04-30T18:56:24.231+01:002012-04-30T18:56:24.231+01:00I was an exchange student (in New Canaan, USA) for...I was an exchange student (in New Canaan, USA) for a year when I was 17 so I know kids can cope with a lot, but not everything. I do think parents are very very involved here in the US...I prefer the English way.About Last Weekendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04716571630418078937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-59208333405488268862012-04-30T14:09:52.898+01:002012-04-30T14:09:52.898+01:00Everything is so complicated today.
When I was yo...Everything is so complicated today. <br />When I was young, only the brightest of bright went on to Uni. That seems weird by today's standards but it was the norm then.<br />(I wasn't one of them!)<br />Maggie X<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-86973732570667784822012-04-29T15:55:47.964+01:002012-04-29T15:55:47.964+01:00kelly - Way to make me feel like a geriatric! LOL
...kelly - Way to make me feel like a geriatric! LOL<br /><br />Woking Mum - I had a stereo with me and that thing was a nightmare to have to move around. Can't remember what happened to it but I probably just gave it to someone when I left uni.<br /><br />Ms C - wow, that's a long way! The Queenager flies all over by herself now, although last time she went back to college, her flight was canceled that morning and I admit we completely took over the arrangements. She ended up getting into her city at 1am and there was no transport to her dorm (40 miles away) so we had to order her a cab. Just couldn't leave her to find her way around at that time of night.<br /><br />Claudia - Great idea and what a fab story!!<br /><br />Metro Mum - Awww, what a sad story. I know someone else that happened to and she still lets her kids come back whenever they want to. They're in their 20's now but she swears she'll never do that to her own kids.<br /><br />Iota - very true. I vacillate between letting them make their own mistakes and thinking about how much we're spending of their education.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-69191847889047040132012-04-29T13:13:43.505+01:002012-04-29T13:13:43.505+01:00They do have a lot more stuff than we did.
I'...They do have a lot more stuff than we did. <br /><br />I'm guessing one reason why parents are more interested and involved in their kids' lives at college is because they are paying hugely more for it.Iota https://www.blogger.com/profile/08507184283437057648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-68509033303624527622012-04-29T12:21:49.020+01:002012-04-29T12:21:49.020+01:00My stepfather kicked me out when I was 16 without ...My stepfather kicked me out when I was 16 without any help or money - he actually demanded that I handed him the keys of my mother's house, so there was no going back. It was a very tough way to learn how to deal with life, and I don't plan on repeating any of this with my own kid(s), but at a certain point they need to take responsibility for their own lives. Maybe even make a few mistakes to learn. <br /><br />Ask me again in 14 years though...Metropolitan Mumhttp://www.metropolitanmum.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-75042198501006417582012-04-29T06:18:51.971+01:002012-04-29T06:18:51.971+01:00My first year of Uni (1992), near the end of the a...My first year of Uni (1992), near the end of the academic year, I advertised in the church newsletter where I had been attending for anyone able to store my stuff for the summer. <br />I then arranged to stay with that family for a couple of weeks before the start of term the next year while I found a flat. <br />I became good friends with the son while I was staying there. Five years later I married him. :)Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17197623078681301330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-31041311231269545112012-04-29T03:51:07.915+01:002012-04-29T03:51:07.915+01:00Our generation (I left for Uni in the early 80s as...Our generation (I left for Uni in the early 80s as well)is definitely expected to be more involved, although in my case, we can't be nearly as involved as we (or the Uni) would like, since we're in Korea and our son's in the U.S. He has the luxury (that I doubt your daughter does, given her location) of having a number of friends' parents within a short drive with plenty of space (Texas, you know) for him to store his car and his clobber until he returns to school in August. We do a lot of parenting-via-skype, but he will have to organize the packing and storage as well as getting himself to the airport at 4am before his 6am international flight. Let's hope he can find his passport...MsCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03623997911568143459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-26363966643132069992012-04-28T19:44:33.255+01:002012-04-28T19:44:33.255+01:00I agree, I think it's a generational thing. Pa...I agree, I think it's a generational thing. Parents are much more involved in their children's education at every stage now than when we went to school.<br /><br />I think they also take a lot more to uni than we did!! We had to clear out of our halls every term as it was used a conference centre in the hols; we were allowed one box of stuff in the storage room. Amazingly, I stored that box and took the rest home on the train!Working Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16243697047355131343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-28431398741163061452012-04-28T17:58:32.013+01:002012-04-28T17:58:32.013+01:00I think the "helicopter parenting" pheno...I think the "helicopter parenting" phenomenon is more of a generational than an American vs. British thing. Although I'm nowhere near as old as you, it's true that parents (likely on both sides of the pond) are more protective (in some cases overprotective) of their children than back when you were growing up (in fact your childhood came during a period when it was less protective).<br /><br />There are some sites/blogs, like http://freerangekids.wordpress.com in which some parents are starting to question the overprotection of 2000s-2010s parenting.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05422091619504878141noreply@blogger.com