tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post5068793639969830455..comments2024-01-05T06:16:49.932+00:00Comments on Expat Mum: I don't CARE how you fed your baby!Expat mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-87048717972940966802013-04-29T06:38:35.395+01:002013-04-29T06:38:35.395+01:00I have to admit that when I was breastfeeding I wa...I have to admit that when I was breastfeeding I was passionate about it but that's because life was fairly sh**. I was exhausted. For 13 months no-one else could give him milk except for me. It broke me. I was completely single minded about the whole thing and hearing OTT reports from others kept me going. If I'd heard more pragmatism maybe I would have gone for mixed feeding and got a bit of my life back sooner.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12019188687429455091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-40880663271473888832013-04-29T06:38:33.783+01:002013-04-29T06:38:33.783+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12019188687429455091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-80688892187946758632013-04-25T15:29:24.189+01:002013-04-25T15:29:24.189+01:00I am firmly in the camp of "judge ye not"...I am firmly in the camp of "judge ye not". Obviously I make certain parenting decisions, as do we all, but I would hope that people would not assume that by my having taken one path and not the other (dummy vs no dummy, baby-led vs spoon led) that I'm judging the other as not right. I'm just choosing what feels right for ME specifically! I've had many conversations with family and friends, who gently or not-so-gently try to steer me towards their preference, and I find it frankly baffling. To each their own.<br />Congrats on being nominated for the BiBs, btw, we are in the same category!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079637140655451067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-12849862523996202012013-04-25T15:00:09.833+01:002013-04-25T15:00:09.833+01:00Yes, it is interesting that I care less now that I...Yes, it is interesting that I care less now that I'm nowhere near those phases of motherhood, but I was never one for forcing my practices down other people's throats.<br />Even when people say they are "just trying to get the message out" or they are "correcting misinformation", I still think they're trying to change minds. Unless it's life and death, people should let other people make their own minds up. Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-71991188650231796442013-04-25T14:56:42.707+01:002013-04-25T14:56:42.707+01:00It's best to be a well adjusted, sensible, mat...It's best to be a well adjusted, sensible, mature parent with a big sense of humor and to not take yourself too seriously. Raising children is not a competition to see who does it best. It already felt that way when I did it 30 odd years ago, so it has nothing to do with modern times. You would not believe the pressure we were all under. Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-40821205356488445132013-04-25T10:42:28.808+01:002013-04-25T10:42:28.808+01:00I must admit that in the public health community, ...I must admit that in the public health community, the business of conferring maternal immunity is considered a good idea. I do wonder, though, if this is more applicable to an earlier time when general health wasn't as robust as it is now. I can't claim any special insight. I know I wasn't breast fed and I figure I've been as healthy as most folks. But for those who really like to fight for their opinions, I've never known facts to stand in their way.Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239488936038510294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-27079412533282150012013-04-24T23:53:03.920+01:002013-04-24T23:53:03.920+01:00I've come to the conclusion that only those wh...I've come to the conclusion that only those who are currently in the situation are the ones who care (i.e., need to validate their choices). Once your child has grown up and is healthy and well-adjusted, then who the hell cares whether or not you breast/bottle-fed him/her? By then, it is patently obvious that you made the right choice for you and your baby.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-20061091850244486392013-04-24T22:23:34.132+01:002013-04-24T22:23:34.132+01:00Well said. So much of the bluster and judgmental ...Well said. So much of the bluster and judgmental behavior has more to do with people wanting reassurance that they've made the right choice. After all, no one's going to know for years and years anyway. This is the best part of having older kids - all of this eventually stops being a Thing. I do wonder sometimes if all the pressure society puts on women to be super-moms leads them to believe that things like breastfeeding and attachment parenting are the difference between life and death, and maybe that explains why they're so damn militant about their choices in child bearing and rearing. I breastfed and did the organic thing and spoke a second language with #1, and he seems to be a nice, well-adjusted, smart, successful kid. But I'm pretty sure that he would have turned out that way even if I'd bottle-fed him, raised him on Cocoa Puffs and McNuggets and used only English. By the time your children are in their mid-to-late teens, you're a lot humbler, I think, because you realize it's not all about you, and your kid will ultimately do what (s)he is going to do. But you don't know that when you start off. Maybe it's less frightening if you think you can control it all.MsCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03623997911568143459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-26471747462707530422013-04-24T22:03:14.119+01:002013-04-24T22:03:14.119+01:00Oh lord - I hadn't even thought of that. Poor ...Oh lord - I hadn't even thought of that. Poor woman. KNowing her luck she won't be able to breast feed and she'll be forever criticised as a deadbeat mother.<br />Although she's irritating on a lot of levels, Sarah Ferguson was criticised for leaving her oldest daughter when she was 6 weeks old and going off somewhere with Prince Andrew. It turned out the Queen for some reason, had said she couldn't take the baby. Ditto when Diana missed William's first birthday because she was in Australia. Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-72164296307970589102013-04-24T21:30:33.595+01:002013-04-24T21:30:33.595+01:00I'm slightly dreading the serial debating that...I'm slightly dreading the serial debating that will go on over every single little decision that Will and Kate make about their baby. Perhaps we just won't know about most of it. I hope so. But I doubt they'll be able to keep it completely behind closed doors.Iota https://www.blogger.com/profile/08507184283437057648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-45001875509817578442013-04-24T21:19:40.789+01:002013-04-24T21:19:40.789+01:00How funny - when I was working in journalism in Lo...How funny - when I was working in journalism in London my editor told me: never write about breastfeeding - you'll get poop through the mail. And I never did. Though I might now - just for fun!About Last Weekendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04716571630418078937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-12614270525582186502013-04-24T18:40:50.010+01:002013-04-24T18:40:50.010+01:00I'm glad you can keep out of these sorts of pe...I'm glad you can keep out of these sorts of petty arguments. Re baby led weaning... I couldn't stop laughing when a woman I know told me she was still breast feeding her six year old and I said, "why? we don't live in the third world." And she said, "oh Daisy hasn't asked to stop yet." I wonder if she's still doing it lolMommyHeadachehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03924035710478459520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327382592404863779.post-48002839617810903302013-04-24T18:04:10.177+01:002013-04-24T18:04:10.177+01:00If only every one else followed that advice, the w...If only every one else followed that advice, the world would be a much calmer (and less bxtchy) place...Potty Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04751869800592294891noreply@blogger.com