Thursday, July 26, 2012

"We're Pregnant!"

Well, no. Absolutely not, if you were jumping to the obvious conclusion, but bear with me, - the title really is relevant.

I was in a conversation the other say when the guy referred to "When we were pregnant". I just did a bit of an internet search and apart from seahorses, it seems that males don't become pregnant or carry their young for any period of time before they're born.

Ok, ok, I know I'm being pedantic, but that phrase "We're pregnant" or anything that suggests both parents are pregnant, just really irritates me. And everyone seems to be saying it.

For some reason "We're expecting" doesn't bother me at all; it conveys that a baby is on the way but doesn't give the bloke credit for physically carrying the baby. That's what's probably bothering me - I never liked being pregnant and was sick as a dog for a lot of the time, so I'd be bloody annoyed if the Ball & Chain tried to claim similar symptoms on any level whatsoever. Furthermore, you never hear a father saying "We're breast-feeding" yet the pregnancy claim leaps to the same ridiculous scenario - that a man's body could carry and/ or provide sustenance for a baby.


And it appears that a few men agree with me, before anyone starts accusing me of anti-men-ism or something militant like that. Some people get even more irritated than me by the phrase too. If you're religious, you might even see it as " slap in the face for our Creator" like this person, but I wouldn't necessarily go that far.

If guys (and their women, for that matter) could just stick to "We're expecting" it would be nice. That's all.


8 comments:

Maggie May said...

Thats one thing they cannot take credit for........ carrying the baby before birth.
Doesn't that man look gross?

You know, I'm a bit disappointed that the announcement isn't true!!!
Maggie X

Nuts in May

mamacrow said...

yup, annoys me too. At least until modern medicine has caught up with scifi and men can indeed become pregnant!

Men can, however, lactate - there's been several documented cases. It requires lots of stimulation and maybe some supplements apparently

Expat mum said...

Maggie - for reasons which I won't go in to 'cause my youngest can read, if I were pregnant I would be taking my story to the tabloids!

But mamacrow - if lactation requires supplements, it's not really natural is it? Unless they have an extra chromosome or something? (Getting into very dodgy bio-chem here.)

Mud said...

I really hate that phrase. Do you have a womb? That you are NOT pregnant! Get over it.

Iota said...

Totally agree. Totally totally agree. I expect (ha ha, geddit?) the word is changing its meaning. But if it comes to mean "expecting a baby" instead of "physically carrying a baby", then what word will we have for that? It's silly, because we already have a perfectly good word for "expecting". It's "expecting".

I once heard someone say "my husband and I are due a baby in December", and I thought that was a lovely turn of phrase. Couldn't that become more widespread? That would relieve some of the pressure on the word "pregnant".

Expat mum said...

Iota - sweet, although it sounds like they were due a tax refund or a rebate in the mail.

family affairs said...

I am sooooo with you on that Lx

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

Oh absolutely, with you. And that photo of a pregnant man made me feel rather queasy. M xx

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